Forgiveness is love on steroids... Loving so much that you would forgive seventy seven times.
Do you ever question someone's actions? What they are doing could be right or wrong. But, can forgiveness ever be wrong? Can loving too much ever be wrong?
If not, then why are we so shocked at the generous, gracious, merciful actions of unrelenting forgivers? Why do we hate the lovers instead of loving the haters?
I can speak for myself and many others when I say that there are many people in this world who owe me. There are many times that I have been affected directly or indirectly in a negative manner. Many times in my life there have been moments where I even question myself and my own ability to forgive.
Years lost, moments stolen, innocence taken and yet here I am healing and forgiving. Forgiveness is not a single action - it is a repeat action that happens day after day for the rest of your life. Every time a thought, emotion, memory comes storming back. Every time conversations happen that relate to a harmful past incident. Every time you think about what you are owed because of all that you missed out on.
Love and forgiveness have to be at the forefront of your mind daily. We are called to love one another as Christ loved us. He loved us so much that he forgave us eternally and died so that we could live. Now, we are called to love the same way, forgive the same way, live the same way.
So, why is it so shocking when we forgive the predators, the killers, the abusers? When we show a minuscule amount of grace and mercy - the world is shocked?! They question who we are, where we are from, where we have come from, and what is wrong with the forgiving people...
Why is it wrong to forgive? Should we hold onto the anger, sadness, bitterness, hatred? Who is that hurting? Only you!
The other people have moved on - they don't think twice about the harm they have caused you while you are wasting your life away dwelling on it. You are dying on the inside as they are thriving - Now, they have not only stolen something from your past, but you are allowing them to steal your present and your future.
Moving on and moving forward is difficult because it means forgiving and really facing the issues at hand, but it is so much easier and lighter a decision than spending your life wasting away in the darkness.
Isn't this what we all need to do? Can you imagine not having bitterness, anger, resentment, sadness, hurt, hatred in your heart to carry around? What if you really were free of all of this?
You must forgive in order to be forgiven and we have to be a people that forgive.