Image - What do we portray of ourselves and show to others? What do we see in ourselves? Who are we really and how frequently are we hiding behind a mask of who we think others want us to be?
Who are you to tell me I am less than what I should be? It's not easy to be perfect! Perfect is a relative term because we are all perfect in God's eyes because he created us uniquely and then he broke the mold! Unfortunately society tells us that we all need to be the same or like other people. We need to strive for this physical perfection or this image created by others - this is what society is telling us.... We are so lost!
Why do we allow others to try to define us? Why do we allow society to define us? Why do we allow commercials and name brands to define us?
Who is staring back at you in the mirror every day? Are you proud of who/what you see? Are you ashamed? At what point in your life did your reflection change? What happened to you that you started looking at some strangers eyes staring back at you in the mirror?
This morning I saw a music video and was disheartened.
(I am purposefully not posting the video, name of video or artist because I do not want to support this media or behavior. I also do not think it to be appropriate material for most of my readers. I am sure you all will know what or who I am speaking of.)
A young woman who used to be a role model for young girls has recently put herself on display for the world in an attempt to become more famous, of a higher ranking, and someone who everyone is talking about. Some say her attempts are to become the next Madonna - but honestly Madonna was risky, but had better taste and more respect for herself.
The first thing I said out loud was - "WOW" .... then soon after I begged the question ... "How damaged does one person have to be in order to get to a point where they pull a stunt like this?"
How important is your image? Remember that when you actually decide to become a responsible adult or decide to take a step in your current career ... these things are out there and online forever. It is ironic the images young women are willing to post on their online profiles such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. Think about whether or not that is something that you want your children to see, your parents, the people who love you... and mostly... is that something you would want God to see?!
Often we do things, say things, or portray ourselves to be something we are not just to make a career move, a societal step, a friendship circle move or jump... We don't think about the consequences of our actions when we are doing this and how it will affect our futures. Most of the time we are blinded by what is directly in front of us - whether that be an obstacle or opportunity. We see what we want to see and dismiss everything else .... We have to stop this!
One of the most healing exercises I performed when I was dealing with image issues included washing them away.
1. Take a piece of rice paper - write down all the things about yourself that you are ashamed of or self conscious about.
2. Place a mirror against a wall so that you can see your whole self.
3. Place a bowl of water at the base of the mirror.
4. Stand in front of the mirror and read aloud all the things you have listed on the paper.
5. Drop it in the water and watch it dissolve and wash away!
6. Friends start to immediately write positive uplifting things on the mirror for you so that when you look back up and see yourself in the mirror you also see what others see.
- Beautiful, Smart, Funny, Loyal, Unique, His, Created for a purpose, Driven, Strong, Uplifting, Compassionate, etc...
Now let this bring a tear to your eye and imagine yourself experiencing that... It's like nothing else. Even as an adult when I think I am not good enough, perfect enough, beautiful enough, etc I just think back on this moment/experience and remember how that made me feel.
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
There is no point in your life where you should feel so defeated, broken, or damaged that you have to climb your way back up in a way that will be further damaging to you or your image. When you look in a mirror you should see all the things that make you unique because that is the way that God purposefully created you and designed you to be. You need to know that he wanted you to be a certain way and you should love yourself for who you are because He loves you exactly the way you are.
If you are defeated, broken, or damaged - rest easy my friend because there is nobody better that can help you climb your way out and hold you all the way. You will heal and the scars left behind are just considered beauty marks that remind you of how far you have come and how much you have grown.
Fearfully and wonderfully made.... How can you imagine anything more impactful? He had passion in his heart and purpose in his hands when he pieced you together... and He will continue to piece you together whenever you need him to!
Who do you see when you look into the mirror? Do you see someone you are proud of? What would it take to get you to a place where you love and respect yourself that way that God does or the way that everyone else does?
You are smart - You are funny - You are beautiful/handsome! Know this and believe it! You have a purpose greater than that which society leads you to believe.
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
You may not know it yet. You may not see it yet. You will someday.
Who do you see in the mirror?