Saturday, September 7, 2013

Trust

Trust: assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something.

Trusting blindly and completely - what a neat concept. There is something that just generally goes unsaid about people and relationships. There is a beginning level of innocent trust between people when a relationship initially forms. We believe what someone says and trust that they are being honest and unveiling all the information to us. We build an entire foundation on that trust and confidence in the other person's character.

Sometimes trust is broken. We uncover a lie, a small level of deceit, or sometimes something even larger. That once innocent trust no longer exists. Now there is doubt in it's place. There is this question always lingering in your mind - Are they being completely honest? What are they hiding?

Trust is such a hard concept to base a relationship on when there isn't any or there is a lack of it. Such a foundational aspect to relationships and without it I could say there would not be a relationship.

Recently I have discovered that without trust you have nothing. Trust has such an impact on a relationship or lack of trust causing a loss in a relationship....

Respect: a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.

I think it goes without saying, but I will say it anyways. Trust is all about respect. When you respect someone enough that you do not allow anything to get in the way of that trust factor. You say what you want to say and need to say even if it isn't what the other person wants to hear. You are up front and honest from the beginning because it's not only the right thing, but it's also the best thing for your relationship.

Think about a relationship you have; new or old. Think about those questions that build a relationship and lay bricks to the foundation. What would happen to the future if one of those bricks were faulty or went missing? What would happen to the foundation if there was a huge crack through it? Imagine what life would look like if one day the foundation caves underneath your feet? What will you do then? Think about the old friends and loved ones that you surround yourself with. Why are they still around? Can you trust them with your life? Do you respect them? Do you invest everything you have into those people because they are the committed ones?

When you are in that moment - a question is posed - you have a choice to make. You can either be honest and allow that trust to grow.... Or, you can tell a white lie, a big lie, etc and take one more brick away from that foundation you have built. Eventually there will be nothing left and it won't be worth rebuilding because there will always be that shadow of doubt laying over your head. How it is that more people than not choose to take away a brick than lay another one?

I am laying a foundation .... it will be nice and strong. I am adding bricks to make it stronger and healthier. There will be no cracks in my foundation and it will not fall out from underneath me one day....

Will yours? What does your foundation look like? Are you adding bricks or taking them away?

1 comment:

  1. So well thought out. Great post. Trust is the cornerstone of all great relationships. When you truly trust someone you allow yourself to be vulnerable. Being vulnerable shows one's true self and it is where love is found.

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